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what is the definition of success, how do you define it and to what extent can it consume you.
theres no doubt that we all have egos, and while most of our greed does get bigger and bigger just wanting more and more, many strong people are able to make sure that they stay down to earth and keep it real.
then again, we have a lot of personal dreams and desires, most of which a lot of us realise we may never be able to achieve. so the question is, do we pursue that goal, or stick to reality.
and if you achieve the many goals of reality, have you succeeded in providing yourself a stable future, or have you failed in terms of your personal desires.
want over need. need over want. how do you measure which one is more important?
i guess you can't really pick one or another. because life without passion means that theres nothing to live on for. but life without stability or structure means that you can't pursue your dreams, since basically you don't have a foundation to build on.
so would it be correct to say that you need both? and that success is measured by your own terms based on how fulfilled you are at the end of the day?
i think so, because yeah you may be judged by nonsense people (although take note that it doesnt hurt to have feedback from others, knowing more is better than less) but in the end if it makes you happy, i think that's most important.
i have a friend who believes that emotions such as anger and sadness can be controlled. i strongly disagree, because like success, what fulfills you, fulfills you. because like your heart, you can't choose who you love and whatever makes you happy, makes you happy.
lovex.
would you rather break someone else's heart, or have your heart broken?
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recently, i just finished the end of my so called 'new years resolution' even though its like mid way through the year. but its just some things i like to discipline myself about from time to time just to see if i can really make it. and what i just accomplished was 30 days without msn. yeah for some of you you might be thinking what thats kinda stupid, thats nothing. but i dunno i feel that for a lot of kids in today's society. it is a lot because you just dont realise how dependent you become on some little minor things.
my friend also decided to quit facebook for a week starting yesterday. oh but she was caught on today haha. so i guess that proves my point a little.
at the start it was kinda weird, like frankly to say it is kinda like a drug because it becomes such a convenient tool that you dont realise how much it means to you. and because generally you 'WASTE' so much time on it, when you're restricted to not go on, you really start to wonder what to do with all that time. and i think it was good for me because it really got me doing work and getting back in pace with all the lectures id been missing due to laziness and the urge to sleep.
and i mean, yes you do have the friends you keep in touch with all the time. but there are some you never talk to on msn, while there are some you solely only talk to on msn. not to say that you're only cyber friends, (not that there's anything wrong with that) but for example. i cant talk to one of my friends on msn because it just feels different. i cant predict when she's actually laughing (at me haha) or if she's trying to be funny. tone of voice does matter. but being away from it all. i got to kinda realise what/who was important. i mean those that i kinda thought i really could not ever live without, i could.
i lasted.
30 days.
i mean yes there is such thing called sms and phone calls. but i guess when you're so used to just talking on msn (coz its the cheapest form of communication ever kinda) to a certain degree it makes it awkward talking to someone and randomly calling them up just because you are not on msn. and while you really want to talk to them, but cant because of certain limitations, then hope that they come and make an initiative to connect back to you, yet that doesnt happen, yes you do get sad i guess. because you're not valued as much as you thought you would be? yes that's definitely an ouch. but then you get to realise those that you really CANT LIVE WITHOUT and would really need to jack up phone bills just to stay in touch with.
loooooooooove, is all around and its what makes you human i guess. and of course there are tons of obstacles as to what is love, how do you know you are IN LOVE, or if you only LOVE someone else. there is a difference. but generally i think the hard part is to GET INTO LOVE.
when you realise that you potentially may be serious about your crush/lover, its always hard finding out if that someone special feels the same way about you. essentially you want to just get over it and move on to the bit where you get to hold hands and do lovey dovey things together, but the question is, what happens if it doesn't work out the way you want it to.
that's the risk you take. and isn't everything you do in life, essentially a part of risks you take in life?
the thing with this is that, i guess when you like/interested/crush on someone, you hope that it will go the same way as how you feel and hopefully that the other party feels the same. and to the extent where you can genuinely like someone, there usually is a friendship involved and part of a risk means substituting that friendship for a relationship. and that's the risk there.
there's no doubt about this, if you try and pursue what is currently a friendship, and the other party doesn't feel the same way, you risk awkwardness and even the possibility of a loss of a friendship.
but if you think about it the other way, if you try, you fail, but at least you try, rather than not knowing everything at all.
but is it really that simple. actions speak louder than words and thats true because you can say anything, it's doing that is definitely way harder. and it's not always the case yes you might just think GO FOR IT, theres NOTHING TO LOSE, but how do you know that? i mean the fact that you're in this situation is because you don't know how the other person feels, hence you don't know if you should do it or not.
guys, so i'm sure you've probably heard of the new soon-to-be if not already 'it thing' "twitter"
yes ive heard that its like facebook status updates and stuff but i dunno i decided to get it for fun, and because i want a nice username in the event that it does become the next new facebook haha yeah sounds lame but really i didnt want a name that was like yanlee183939 so yes.
go get twitter and join me on twitter lovely's.
my account is: loveyanxx
and it will be fun i guess i hope haha and seriously its fun following 'randoms', currently following kevjumba, selena gomez and perezhilton <3
its because my friends have not been 'hip' enough to get it yet, YET.
nah just kidding love them all but yes tell me if you do get twitter babies.
loveyanxx;
okay i feel like blogging, cept the problem is ive kinda forgotten about what i wanted to say. except its about happy things, maybe, well happy in the sense, the ending is better than the process. but i feel like i should be sleeping. its 4am in the morning and my computer crashed sigh reducing my essay from 1,200 words to 1,000 words, and now i can't remember what i wrote in those 200 words. but enough of depressing assignments, i wonder if life gets even more depressing when you start to work haha, maaaaaaaybe not.
well a few days ago, i found out that a family friend person was expecting, 3 months already. and nothing special i guess, its just so cute, the excitement of a new baby, the love that the baby (generally) is born into, every little moment as each baby grows as a human. a few months ago, i remember that one of my friends told me that his sister was having a baby. and i was like SIGH why can't any of MY friends have babies. and he sighed at me, for the obvious reasons i guess haha. most of us are only seventeen or eighteen, and while its perfectly normal to have kids at this age, its just not what any of us has in their short term goals.
but i must say it is an exciting process, i mean the thought of everything happening, and having a baby, seriously who wouldn't get excited at that. with your loved one. aww.
but to get to that happy stage of your life where you're having kids, you would have had unhappy times right?
so forgive me if this doesn't really link to anything i just said, i guess im just feeling a whole lot of emotions right now.
as friends/lovers/siblings/peers WHATEVER the emotional relationship it may be, don't you find it frustrating sometimes when you don't seem to get the same amount of input as you give?
its not about NEEDING to get back equally, but just because it gets tiring when you feel that you're efforts aren't being returned. when you keep TRYING and TRYING and TRYING to get a hold of that person, but it just seems like nothing is going to happen. so do you KEEP TRYING AND TRYING? or do you stop and just move on to bigger, better people?
if the title confuses you, sorry in advanced, actually i liked the idea of it, in some ways. because what im going to be talking about today is the thickness of one's skin. so in a sense, you could relate tall to being, thick and tree to skin. how thick does your skin grow, makes more sense right? but i like the tree analogy.
so a few days ago, i went to my friends party, it was a strictly invite only list because it was at his place and i guess there was limited alcohol and space to accomodate randoms. and of course because people dont generally like gate crashers or unexpected amounts of people, it just causes chaos, usually.
throughout the night everyone was pretty much enjoying themselves, because i guess while not everyone knew each other, people still knew some people and everyone seemed to get on fine. by the time some people had started leaving and this was nearly the time that the party was coming to an end, guess what, add a little drama to the scene and you have a gatecrasher. woo.
at least half the people had left already and the girl came. so when someone was like oh the chicks at the door i was like 'come again?' i thought she wasnt invited. so i was like okay lets go see if shes actually going to come in and by the time i got there she was already in. i was pretty damn sure no one invited her, and yes as you can probably guess im not the biggest fan of her so i really had no issues that she wasnt invited.
i mean for one, you dont rock up like 3 hrs late, and two you don't text someone to ask where they're place is. because i went to ask the host i thought she wasnt invited, and the host is like, yeah she just decided to gatecrash. so im like okay how did she find out? and the host is like, oh she texted me in the arvo and stuff asking for addy and details. but my point being, i mean if you're not invited to something, do you not have any dignity to just not go?
okay kids, this is just an IMPORTANT NEWS UPDATE.
jay chou, the awesome talented songwriter/singer/ director, WHATEVER HE IS
is coming to australia as part of his world tour 2009.
the current details as listed on http://jmsaustralia.com/english/
is that it is on the 3rd july 2009 friday
at Acer Arena in SYDNEY OLYMPIC PARK
and the sad thing is, for all those in any other state, who may not be able to get transport to sydney, it means that we have a higher chance of missing out. AND PLUS. not to mention that a ONE NIGHT ONLY concert means that there will be a limited chance of people getting tickets and while it can host from 40 to 21,000 people. WHAT HAPPENS TO THE REST OF US?
so, join this group on facebook in an attempt to hope that he will be swayed, by the number of people that want him to come to melbourne for a concert because frankly we all know, a one-night only concert is clearly NOT enough to ease our jay chou syndromes.
http://www.facebook.com/groups/edit.php?gid=61483923809#/group.php?gid=61483923809&ref=mf
TELL ALL YOUR FRIENDS TO JOIN TOO! ANYONE.
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today, is the start of a new beginning, i think so, but i wouldn't know.
for some reason i feel like change is happening. and today isn't something special like a birthday or the first day of school or something. i just feel like changing. for the good or the worse no one can really know but i think ive come to a point where im just kinda sick of some things?
sick the way some things 'roll' and the fact that it just doesn't satisfy me anymore. not neccessarily saying that it ever did, but at least now it's come to a point where i can't take it anymore. its not like im really angry or whatever but i just feel like something's gotta go.
and that's my past.
im not choosing to get rid of it because i didn't enjoy it. sure i did enjoy it, there were definitely tons of downs, but for every down, there were two up's to make up for it, and what is life without any failures or sadness or tears?
i read this awesome book called 'the big questions' by lou marinoff, and inside he quotes this man called marcus aurelius who says: "the happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts"
ever since i read that, i've been in love with that quote because i think it's so true and very valid. forever, human's dont really seem to be satisfied with what they're given in life. sure there definitely are things where you can be unhappy about. just because that quote basically implies that you have to be happy to be happy, doesn't mean you really have to be. make sense?
so today's topic? the debate between whether or not to get a fake or real.
in the above picture, one is fake, and one is real, and the true question is, can you even tell which is which? (there actually is a difference)
i guess it's like most people. being 'fake' or being 'real' is considered a personality characteristic. when you meet new people, usually it's nice and everyone is just warming up to each other, being careful about what they say so that they do not offend the other. and for that, it is being a little 'fake'. 'fake' in the sense that everything is a bit pretend and false, but i guess that if it's for the greater good, and in everyone's best interest, then it's really okay.
but when does it become a lie?
when people start acting in a certain way because they don't want to disappoint you, or reveal the real them that may not actually appeal to you? and the question for the 'fake' people is that, why are they fake? why do they attempt to be someone that they clearly are not?
i guess it's a mixture of both the environment and personal morals.
it's like asking, what prompts people to purchase fake goods?
is it for the "status" or the "class" that is associated with the "idea" of the fake?
maybe. i mean, i think that for those who want to purchase a fake because they REALLY like the design, yet are not willing to pay that much/don't have the finances or just because they believe that it's a 'one-off fashion' thing, then yeah it seems pretty legit that you'd buy a fake because you like the design.
but then there's the people who do it because they want people to "believe" that they're "up there" (whatever that means) with the rest of society. and it's quite interesting though because in australia at least, "classes" aren't that distinctively active in our society and so it makes you question "why do you want people to believe something that you're not?"
"why carry a fake when you clearly cannot afford it?"
in no way am i trying to say that if you're poor you don't deserve to have it, but it makes you wonder why you must try to achieve something that you're not. if you buy it purely to make you look better, then it's time that you found stability and confidence in some other areas.
and like fake bags, fake people too can be depicted in the same way. yes, they may seem good and awesome at the start, but like fake goods, 'money for its value' will eventually mean that those goods do not last as long as the real stuff. as per individuals, no matter how hard you may try to cover up the real you into being someone totally different, time will reveal everything because ultimately, 'you are you', it really can't be changed. sure; you may think that you're changing and you can handle it, but in the end, it's really you that suffers.