- by Ronald McFadden
If you're not married yet, share this with a friend.
If you are married,
share it with your spouse or other
married couples and reflect on
it.
An African proverb states,
"Before you get married,
keep
both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get
involved and make a commitment to
someone, don't let lust, desperation,
immaturity,
ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem,
make you
blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that
you
can change someone or that what you see as faults
aren't really
important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or
her
flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and
differences will become more
obvious.
If you love your mate and want the relationship to
grow and
evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye
and not let every little thing
bother you.
You and your mate have many different
expectations,
emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and
strengths.
You are two unique individual children of God who
have
decided to share a life together.
Neither of you are perfect,
but are you perfect for each other?
Do you bring out the best in each
other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or
do you
compete, compare, and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past
pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her.
You
can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop
self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and
"a life", you won't find yourself
making someone else
responsible for your happiness or responsible for your
pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and
selfishness are
not the ingredients of a thriving,
healthy, loving and lasting
relationship!
Seeking status,wealth, and security are the
wrong
reasons to be in a relationship.
What keeps a relationship
strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of
humor,sharing
household tasks, some getaway time
without business or children and daily
exchanges (a
meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)?
Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send an email.
Share
common goals and interests.
Growth is important. Grow together,not away from
each
other, giving each other space to grow without feeling
insecure.
Allow your mate to have outside interests. You can't
always
be together.
Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of
commitment.
Don't try to control one another.
Learn each other's
family situation. Respect his or her parents
regardless.
Don't put
pressure on each other for material goods.
Remember for richer or for
poorer.
If these qualities are missing,the relationship will
erode as
resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect,
dishonesty, and pain replace the
passion.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put
the
"I"!!!!
The greatest glory of living is not in never
falling,
but in rising everytime you fall ..........
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Smiling is infectious; you catch it like the flu, When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner and someone saw my grin. When he smiled I realized I'd passed it on to him. I thought about that smile then I realized its worth, A single smile, just like mine could travel round the earth.
So, if you feel a smile begin, don't leave it undectected. Let's start and epidemic quick, and get the world infected!
Keep the smile going by sending this on to a friend. Everyone needs a smile!!
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