it's ok to flirt ... to date ... to hate .... to mingle with other people .. to drink.. to cry .. to laugh out loud ... to scream .... to dance wild! you know why ? because when i'm hurt i don't owe anybody any explanation beacause the person who likes me doesn't need it and the person who hates me won't believe it. i live my life as i wish.. until im whole again..if they can't accept me at my worst, then i guess they don't deserve me at my best.

Breaking up with a non-girlfriend I've been in a "sort of" relationship with this girl and I think we just broke up. But of course, you can't call it a breakup because, technically, we're not together. It's just that we were spending a lot of time together and one day we started acting like we were more than friends. I think that phase of our friendship is over now. I recall Janeane Garofalo's line in Reality Bites about sex being the quickest way to ruin a friendship. Sure we haven't gone that far but what happened actually did some damage to the friendship. I hate losing a friend that way. I wish I could turn back the time and change things. But to those of you wishing to break up with someone you're not really in a "relationship" with, this how-to should help you get it done quickly. 1. Get yourself a nice friend, preferably someone of a different nationality. Make sure the cultural differences aren't that pronounced and that you have at least one common language you're both fluent in. 2. Start hanging out with said friend, day in and day out. Make sure you two become very close friends and you're both very comfortable in each other's presence. If she's the usual (immature) gal in her 20's, she'll try to get your attention by teasing you a lot about everything you do. You'll do the same and start acting exactly like a buffoon [or insert other appropriate noun here]: you tease her about her growing paunch and you pick on the way she eats her food, i.e., she hates it when any kind of sauce mixes with her precious white steamed rice. 3. A few weeks after that first kiss and after you start acting like you're more than friends, play games by pretending you don't really like her. This is to mess up her mind and make her even more confused about what your relationship really is about. 4. Choose a really bad day, such as when she's coming down with the "monthly girl thing", to talk to her about your relationship. Specifically, ask her this question: "What exactly are we?" Let her struggle to come up with an answer until she gives up and says, "We're friends, aren't we?" and follows it up with, "This is not a good time to talk about this, I can't really think. So why don't you think about it and we can talk about it tomorrow?"